Finding Hope in struggle to change!

 No matter what people say, if you truly want to change, you will. But the truth is, real change requires more than just wanting—it demands your strongest desire, a deep sense of urgency, and the necessity to take action. It’s not about changing something materialistic; it’s about transforming your habits and behaviours.

Why do we feel the need to change? Often, it’s because we realize that certain habits hurt us, don’t align with our values, or fail to bring us joy. That’s when the thought of change enters our minds. But it’s just that—a thought. Change doesn’t come until we reach a saturation point, a moment when we can no longer tolerate staying the same. That’s when we declare, “Now, I’m going to change!”

We feel motivated, our minds flood with ideas, and we set high expectations for ourselves, believing happiness lies on the other side of this change. If we succeed, it’s great—but even then, we often find something else to fix. Most of the time, though, we don’t fully succeed. We try, we struggle, and after repeated failures, we burn out. The constant effort without results can lead us to feel like failures, incapable of change. It’s a vicious cycle that drains us, leaving us stuck in self-doubt and hopelessness.

At our lowest, it’s easy to believe nothing will ever improve. Everything feels dull, and it seems impossible to escape the loop. But here’s the thing: the only way out is through. Change takes time, persistence, and patience. Even if it feels like the end of the world, it isn’t. You’re not alone—I’m stuck in this loop of self-doubt too.

But if you look back, you’ll notice something interesting: there are always moments where we’ve overcome things we thought we couldn’t. That realization can spark confidence—if we did it before, we can do it again. The key is to break the loop of self-doubt and just start, even if it’s small steps.

For me, self-doubt and procrastination are my biggest obstacles. What’s holding you back?