The Paradox of Success!

 Even Success feels like failure

I have heard many people say that even success feels like failure. Well that keeps me thinking about it all that time. That is it really true?

Often i think what is success? So, i googled it and it says ‘the accomplishment of an aim or purpose’. It simply says that attaining your aim or purpose. So the aim that people have and you have are different. It can never be same. Maybe some things can be but the joy derived from achieving your goal is not same for everyone. So how can we say we are successful by looking at someone else. That feeling should come from your heart and not from validation from others.

For example, Salo is a good student and she wants to be a CA and she wants to go through the direct entry scheme for which she needs 70% of marks in her graduation. That is the reason she wants to have good grades. On the other hand, Arpita is just jealous of Salo getting good marks and getting appreciated by professors, so she starts competing with Salo. At the result day, Salo got 73% marks and Arpita got 80%. But Arpita was happy that she got more than Salo and started boasting about it in front of her, but Salo was happy with what she got because her aim was to qualify for CA, and seeing her happiness got Arpita thinking that how is Salo happy even when she got more than her.

This is the thing, you can’t compare yourself to others. Your goals are different and their different.

People often take success as money, fame, power and what not. But success is a feeling of contentment that comes from within.

No matter wherever you are in your point of life, you need to be first content with what you have, be grateful for what you have and then say to yourself or ask yourself what is it that you truly want from your life. Is it a happy beautiful home? A loving family? A big ass mansion? What is it that is truly you want. I can’t say that it always be materialistic thing. It isn’t always. But the feeling of satisfaction that you made it. It is that feeling what everyone lives for. That i live for. Define success looking upon yourself and not others. You can get inspiration from others but it needs to come from yourself. You define it for yourself and don’t let others decide it for you. 

If you ask me, for me success means freedom. Emotionally, financially and in every ways possible. I want a life where i know what i want, and i have the strength and courage to do that. I want to have my chain of bakery’s all over the world, a customised gift shop, a loving family, house of my own, being so lucky that i would have time for all the loved ones in my life. I don’t wanna be a slave, a slave to my emotions, my boss or anyone. I wanna be free. That is what success would mean to me in long term. 

But that isn’t gonna happen in a week, so i can’t say that i am not successful right now, i am just working towards it and i know that.

People think that once you fail in one thing, you are a failure. It isn’t sweetheart.

Even if you fail once it’s okay, you have the chance to learn. Learn from your mistakes, learn why you failed. Everyone fails. But don’t let your failures hold you down. I know its heartbreaking and shattering once you fail, but have faith in yourself and keep working. There’s only one way you get out of your fear and that is by working on it. I know we just wanna dwell, do nothing and just rant about it. I have been there, done that. But really just show up for yourself.

You need not prove to anyone that you are worthy or anything, but you gotta show yourself that you can do it. At least for you. Just for you. 

Failure is not a mark made on you. It just says you aren’t successful YET. You just didn’t complete it this time. Maybe next time we can try better. Maybe next time we won’t repeat the same mistakes.

Just learn from them. Keep making nee mistakes, but don’t let them scare you, juat do what you feel is right. Do what your gut says you to.

Tell me your fears

Tell me what is stopping you from becoming your best.

Tell me what holds you back

Only you hold yourself back

Set yourself free 

Work to improve yourself 

And attain what you want

Attain your success

And don’t stop

Keep moving ahead

Even when you achieve your goals

Its just a goal

There will be endless goals in your life

Just don’t stop at one

And don’t be boastful 

Be grateful that you achieved one

And there will be many more on the way

You are the only one that can make it possible 

Just Trust Yourself 

And never stop trying

Tell me what’s your fears and what’s your goal and what does success means to you.